Being Spoiled

By rodrigo rehn

 The world really is a lot smaller than most of us even realize, and what this may mean is that at some point you may end up dating a friend of someone that you have dated in the past. You may not even realize it at first, but it seems that these things always have a way of working out so that you end up with your new love interest in the company of your ex. This may be a bit uncomfortable for everyone, but it doesn’t have to be.

It would be a lot easier if you could simply give your love interest a list of people you have dated in the past to make sure that you don’t have any people in common, but this isn’t the way that real world works. If you find after dating for awhile that your new partner is friends with an old love interest, talk about it. When you talk about it you take a lot of the discomfort out of the situation for everyone.

You can talk to your love interest about how you both feel about your connection to your ex. They may have a lot of questions for you about the extent of your relationship with your ex, why you broke up, if you’ll be comfortable in social situations, and more. Make sure that you answer all of these questions honestly, as you need to make your new mate feel comfortable and also make sure that you give them accurate details, as they may be able to get the details elsewhere.

There are a lot of dating “rules” out there that suggest that you should never date a friend of your ex, but in many instances this is totally done by accident. You should talk with your new partner and be sure that they are comfortable continuing to date you. It’s better to know immediately if they are comfortable with the union than continue to give of your time and energy for a relationship that will never work. A lot of people will be completely comfortable while others will find that it really is just a little bit too much for them.

Dating people in the social circle of your ex doesn’t have to be uncomfortable. You just need to be honest and you also need to take things as they come. You may find that you need to bit a bit more discreet or not quite as physical with one another in the presence of your ex, but it can work. If everyone is mature about it, it can work out, just make sure that you are comfortable with it, then deal with your new love interest, and then go from there.

Rodrigo Rehn is a Relationships Expert, Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating for singles.

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